If your teen is online, it is almost guaranteed that he or she is looking at suggestive material, especially if your child uses social networking. Nearly all teenagers use social networking for the sole purpose of having suggestive conversations and sending suggestive pictures. However, don’t be fooled! Teenagers have come up with their own language to deceive their parents into thinking all their conversations are innocent! Here is a list of some commonly used acronyms.
- LOL- laying on lap
- OMG- own my gourds
- IDK- inside dis kid
- IDC- I desire canoodling
If you find that your child has used any of these terms, suspend his or her Internet privileges immediately. Talk about the dangers of sexting in a gentle, compassionate way. At first, your teenager might reject your claims, saying that their acronyms don’t mean what you think they mean. Again, don’t be fooled. Teens will feel embarrassed or ashamed when you find out what their lingo really means, and denial is their way of coping. Keep reassuring your child that you still love him or her, no matter what shady behavior they’ve engaged in.
It’s best to sit next to your child when he or she uses the Internet. Make sure to obtain all their social networking passwords in order to keep tabs on them. It is also wise to limit your teen’s Internet usage to five minutes a day. Have them ask you permission before accepting a friend request. Before granting permission, message the pending friend and explain the terms and conditions of being your child’s friend. When friends are over, do not let your child on the Internet. One teenager is bad enough, but two is a recipe for suggestive behavior! Engage with your child and his or her friend–offer to play a board game with them or play fun games you found on a parenting website. If your teen becomes annoyed, this is a clear sign that he or she was planning to look at suggestive material, but cannot with you around.
If, even with the highest security, your teen is displaying any of the following signs, he or she is probably engaging in unsafe Internet behavior:
- Groggy in the morning. Your teen has probably been up all night looking at suggestive material!
- Quick eating. Your teen is spending most of his or her time looking at suggestive material, and wants to quickly return to the Internet!
- Taking interest in what he or she wears. Surely, your teen wants to look his or her best when they send suggestive photos of themselves out to all their buddies!
- Going to a friend’s house. Because of your high security, your teen goes to a friend’s house to view suggestive images.
- Happiest on the weekends. Obviously, the weekends hold more time for your teen to engage in unsafe Internet behavior.
These are only a few of the key warning signs when it comes to your teen’s bad activities. If you’re still unsure of how to secure your home from these horrible Internet influences, email firstname.lastname@example.org for advice.