Recently, I’ve made the decision to leave tumblr. No, not forever. I’m just taking a hiatus, and hopefully a long one. Before I go into my main reasons, I should say that a major factor in my coming absence is the need to get myself together. Certain areas of my life need tending to, and they are paramount. Additionally, I have other things I’d rather be doing–running, reading, journaling, etc.
Another thing before I go into my list: please leave me alone if you don’t like what I have to say. Of course, you can always argue me, as that’s your right, but I won’t respond. It’s not that I’m trying to be rude or uninformed; I just want peace. That’s what I left tumblr for. Peace.
In no order:
- Tumblr spends time arguing about things that just detract from the main issues. There are so many users who, instead of talking about real issues, are busy bitching about stuff that isn’t really a thing outside of tumblr. Arguing over whether demisexuality is a real sexuality (not being sexually attracted to someone until after you’ve gotten to know them well). Arguing that using the word “stupid” is a slur (even removed from an insulting context). Arguing about otherkin (believing one is not human). Arguing that it’s wrong for non-Native Americans to own dream catchers. Arguing about Frozen not having any PoC. Is that really worth arguing over when there’s human trafficking, starvation, government corruption, slavery, and brutality?
- You have to go along with their opinions. For instance, most of the tumblr population believes that it’s okay to diagnose oneself with mental illnesses. They deny that doing so promotes stigma. They say that “psychiatrists use the same checklists published on the internet!” and “it’s ableist and classist to not support self-diagnosis, because some people can’t afford professional help!” I totally disagree with that point, but if I was ever to voice that, I’d be under fire.
- There’s very little real debating. It’s ad hominem, all of it. If you don’t agree, you’re homophobic, racist, sexist, classist, ableist, etc. etc. etc. Of course there are people on tumblr who really are those things, but many of them just have different opinions on stuff. I made another post about tumblr earlier that goes into that.
- Special snowflakes. They hate that term, but I think it’s fitting. Everybody wants to be oppressed. I even saw a list, from least to most oppressed, groups of people/populations. How about trying to eliminate oppression instead of arguing over who has more? They’re making mountains out of molehills, which sort of goes along with point #1. Some of these tumblrites–and I’m saying so in the most respectful way I can–need to go outside and breathe in the fresh air of reality.
- Tumblr gives social justice a bad name. I am a feminist–yep, here come the gasps. Being a feminist means you believe in equality regardless of gender. Of course, there are conservative feminists, radical feminists, and many shades in between–but it all comes down to that fundamental principle. Many tumblrites have twisted and corrupted feminism to the point where it’s hatred of males. “Drinking male tears” is something I’ve seen often. I’ve also seen “white males cannot be feminists” and other crap. Tumblr should not be the face of social justice, but I’m sad to see it becoming so.
- I don’t feel safe on tumblr. I guess this is an umbrella for my previous points. Tumblr claims to be tolerant, but they aren’t. They’re only tolerant if you have the same opinion–if not, you’re “a piece of shit.” You know what? Tumblr is full of bigots. Bigotry. Blatant bigotry. I want to seek true equality, where everyone accepts everyone. I just want that. Think about it. On a website of “tolerance and acceptance,” I don’t feel safe reblogging, let alone writing, posts that express my true opinion.That’s screwed up on so many levels.
In conclusion, I don’t recommend tumblr. Yes, there’s the humor. Yes, there’s the body positivity and encouragement. But that can be found elsewhere. I decided it just wasn’t worth it. At this point in time, I’m just going to leave that cesspool alone.