The topic of sex is kind of a taboo in the Christian/church community. Personally, I don’t think it’s discussed enough, but when it is, it’s too often riddled with shame and misunderstanding. There are double standards and destructive lies, particularly against women.
For example: you’re always hearing stuff like, “guys care about sex, girls care about love.” I’m beyond exhausted with this one. I can’t speak for all girls, but love is somewhere next to getting a nose stud on my priority list. Would I like a nose stud? Yes, actually, I would. Do I care about it enough to pursue it at this point in my life? Not really. Sex is probably more important to me right now.
And take sexual attraction. Male desire is always being talked about. Resist temptation, brothers in Christ. Lust is a huge problem you’ll have to face, boys. What about us? Do girls not experience that as well? I’d like to hear people talk about female sexual attraction and its temptations. There should be discussions about the desires we deal with.
Additionally, the modesty demand is almost always placed on us girls. Now, you must know that I’m no modesty advocate (you can read my opinion on that here). But if you’re going to be a proponent of that, at least make sure it goes both ways. I can’t wear shorts above my fingertips or tank tops thinner than two fingers wide, but guys can parade with wet tee shirts clinging to their muscular torsos and trunks halfway down their crotch. It’s because girls are assumed to be “less visual.” I’m sorry, but to be blunt, a guy with a six-pack is hot. This goes both ways. (Of course, as I reference in my linked post, I don’t believe that anybody should dress to avoid “tempting” another person, because we are all responsible for our actions.)
I guess what I’m trying to say is that girls have hormones, too. We get turned on. We care about sex. Hopefully the world, specifically the church, can start to understand.