Everybody’s first piece of advice for a struggling person is to look on the bright side. Try to see it from a different perspective. Find solutions. I have grown weary of this positive outlook.
It’s not that I don’t want to be positive. There is beauty in optimism that cannot be found in anything else. But sometimes I don’t want to look on the bright side. I want to vent. I need to pour out my feelings until there’s nothing left.
Just as there is beauty in optimism, there is so much to be discovered in the world of pain and hardship. Without sadness, there would be no plot to this life we live. There would be no poetry. Happiness would never be appreciated, like light could not be appreciated without being compared to the darkness.
You don’t always have to look on the bright side. When you’re sad, let yourself be sad for a while. Listen to some emotional tunes and write some heavy journal entries. Looking on the bright side all the time will only frustrate you more. The cheeriness will seem fake, and could even damage your spirit even more. Sink into your feelings, because sometimes that’s all your soul needs–a little company. Just always make sure that you come back up for air. Don’t drown in your sadness. It is a temporary escape, not a permanent residence.
We truly need a balance of optimism, pessimism, joy, and pain in this life. Our emotions are broad and complex. Acknowledging them, instead of erasing them with visions of great pleasure, will set us free.